A Relationship Coach or Counselor is someone who specializes in supporting you to succeed in all your life’s relationships.
1.It’s important to get clear on your goals.
How do you want to benefit? What do you want to learn? How do you want to see yourself being your best in relationship? – Let yourself think big! Big goals bring big results!
Do I want improved communication?
Do I want to find ways to make peace with the differences between me and others?
Do I want to find ways for my partner (or person in a relationship I want to focus on) and me to forgive each other for past hurts and betrayals?
Do I want to make a decision about whether or not to go forward with a deeper commitment to this relationship?
Do I want to build increased trust with this person?
Do I want more understanding and ease in my relationship?
Do I want more Inner Peace as a result of this exploration?
Or any other goals you may have…
2. How much training and experience does this Relationship Coach have working with people in my situation?
Generally, a level of maturity or life experience paired with solid qualifications and work history is a good start.
Some questions to ask or explore:
What is their experience and training?
Have they ever worked with people like me who ______, and are experiencing _____?
What level of complexity have they worked with?
For example, I have over 50 years of experience working with individuals and couples as a holistic counselor and relationship coach. I have also worked in an emergency room as a crisis counselor for 17 years, working with people in crisis situations and their families.
3. How do I feel when listening to this person speak in person, online, or on the phone?
Does their tone of voice and manner give me a feeling of confidence in them and in their approach?
What’s my comfort level around being myself with this person?
Do I feel “met”?
Give yourself full permission to notice if this coach feels right for you.
If you don’t feel a good connection with them, regardless of the tools and methodologies used by the coach, it will undoubtedly undermine your process.
4. How aligned am I with this person’s values and way of thinking?
Do I sense that s/he has sensitivity for my issue/s, is trustworthy, and shares many of my most important values regarding the area I want coaching in?]
5. Finally, does this coach present an energy and attitude of where I want to go? Is this person capable of helping me meet my goals?
Is he or she capable of guiding me on the path of relationship growth that I’m choosing to pursue?
Is this a path that he or she knows well?
It’s been my experience that magic will happen for your growth when all the above factors are in place and aligned.
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I want to work with the individuals, couples, and family members who can benefit most from working with me. If you are interested in finding out more about me and how we might work together, let’s schedule a connect call. We can meet on Zoom. You can ask your most important questions, and we can explore together if I am a good fit for you.
Email me at Cynthia@CenterForInnerPeace.net
